- How often do you have good days, bad days and how do you handle them?
- Are you jealous of couples...when they hold hands or otherwise engage in romantic behavior?
- Do you still like yourself?
- Make a list of the things you do (or should do) to be happy?
- Do you get advice from children, relatives, friends and how do you respond?
- Do you still wear your wedding band? If so, why?
- What have you done with all the condolence letters, cards and memorial gifts you received?
- Talk about how you observe birthdays, anniversaries., holidays.
- What do you miss most as a widowed person?
- What changes have you made since you were widowed...in your home, in your appearance, in your friendships?
- How do you keep busy...do you want to keep busy? Do you volunteer?
- Do you reminisce, do you "talk" to your deceased spouse?
- Do you seek to establish a new "relationship?" What kind of relationship?
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- Do you participate in a support group?
- Do you volunteer your time, your talents?
- Yes, you can talk about sex. Is it a need, a problem?
- Do you like being alone or do you hate it?
- What do you look forward to? Travel? New friends? New experiences?
- How are you going on with your life?
- What am I without a mate?
- Have you been "abandoned" by your couple friends?
- Where do you expect to be five years from now, ten years?
- Do you live in the past, the present, the future?
- Have you experienced any horror stories? Any exhilarating stories?
- Is remarriage in your future? Living with someone in your future?
- What have you learned about your loss? Are you more or less patient? More or less compassionate?More or less optimistic? More or less helpful to others?
- What about faith? Religion? Spirituality?
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